Friday, March 4, 2011


I was browsing online when I found this. It made me smile a bit. Medyo nakaka-relate lang din naman kasi ako kahit papaano.

The 28 golden rules for mistresses by Ms. Julie Yap Daza in her book "Etiquette for Mistresses."

1. Mistress is not Mrs. Know your place.

2. Even if he tells you he loves you more than his wife, don’t let that go to your head.

3. Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine’s Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Holy Week and his birthday (that’s why mistresses are also called “holiday orphans" because of this).

4. Befriend his secretary but avoid all contact with his driver (Whether he is a company driver or the family driver, the chauffeur is not to be trusted. Family drivers owe their allegiance to whoever pays them their salary and who feeds them the free meals in the kitchen with the other help. In short, they are loyal to the Mrs. more than the Mr.).

5. As tempting as it seems, don’t patronize the wife’s beauty parlor, jewelry shop, dress shop, or father confessor.

6. Don’t call him, wait for him to call.

7. To be seen with him in public once is risky. The second time could be fatal to one of you. The third time is The End for both of you (love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden, it’s supposed to be hidden).

8. Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults.

9. Mistresses are kept by rich men. But a mistress who is a woman of substance and independent means is better (Translation: Don’t ask him for money).

10. Be discreet (Make sure he is not the type to talk in the sleep).

11. Never travel together (Accidents will always happen. You can never tell).

12. When he breaks a date, charge it to fate, not his fecklessness (Men will be boys. They will forget to call. They will break a date at the last minute. They will stand you up. They won’t explain and they won’t ask for forgiveness. But don’t cry nor throw a tantrum. Don’t break down because a mistress is supposed to understand a man more than his wife does).

13. Wives have their own networks of spies and amigas. It is helpful for the mistress to have her own. A chaperone is not a good idea, however (Chaperones are passe. Besides, they talk).

14. Mistresses don’t complain (They shouldn’t. It’s the wives, according to the husbands, who are “always complaining").

15. Being No. 2, the mistress tries harder.

16. Send him home as soon as it becomes apparent that he’s overstaying.

17. It is practical for a mistress to be linked to another man, preferably her lover’s friend.

18. If he’s a public man and you’re thinking of staging an accident of running into him, think: How many accidents can I pull off in one month?

19. Don’t make unnecessary enemies of his children.

20. Remind him to pay for everything in cash – dinner, flowers, perfume, champagne, pearls, diamonds, a microwave oven, etc….

21. Don’t use tears as a weapon. He’s probably had enough of that from the Mrs. (Wives nag. Wives cry. If only for that reason, a mistress doesn’t use tears to get what she wants).

22. Resist the urge to be found.

23. Perish all thought that someday you’ll be No. 1.

24. Married men who keep mistresses don’t like surprises, as a rule.

25. A man with a mistress leads a double life, his mistress only a half life. Cheer up! A career will make you whole.

26. Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Evidence, evidence….!

27. When in doubt, disappear.

28. When all else fails, leave him.


It is wrong to have an affair with someone na alam mong may ka-relasyon na. Lalo na kung may asawa na. (At sa akin pa talaga nanggaling iyon? Hahaha!)

Just recently, nagkaroon ng teambuilding ang mga officemates ko. Hindi ako sumama kasi ayoko lang. At tsaka wala naman kasi ang head namin kaya at may mga sumama na hindi naman talaga doon sa company namin nagta-trabaho kaya hindi mo din masasabing teambuilding iyon. Anyway, madami palang revelations ang nangyari doon.

May mga chismis na na-confirmed. May mga loveteam na nabuo. May mga babaeng naghalikan. May mga lalaking nahubaran. May nag-quickie sa CR. May mga nalasing. May mga nagkasakit. Madaming nangyari. At buti na lang hindi ako sumama.

My boss has a wife and two kids already. Actually, his wife just gave birth to their 2nd child. At first, I think of my boss as a real family man. Until I found out that he's having an affair with my officemate. Nagulat lang ako. Im a friend of my officemate. May napapansin na ang iba kong officemates about my boss and my officemate pero sa akin naman ay walang malisya yun. Tama pala sila. Mahina lang ang pang-amoy ko sa mga secrets.

Nalungkot ako. Para sa wife and sa kids.

Human beings are very complex. Matalino tayo. Pero hindi ko talaga alam kung paano mag-isip ang tao at kung ano ang nagbabago sa ating pag-iisip kung tayo ay nagmamahal na. Well, at least I think that my boss and my officemate love each other. I think.

I just hope na mahal nga nila ang isat isa. At sana hindi ito makakalabas at lalong huwag makakarating sa wife. Naawa ako sa kids.

Sabi sa Rule Number 7, love is lovelier when it's forbidden.

I can only speak for myself when it comes to this matter. Just like what I've been saying in my previous posts, mahal ko si Luch. At alam kong mahal nya din ako. Bihira lang ang ganitong set-up (sa tingin ko). Bahala na ang ibang tao sa pag-iisip. Basta ang alam ko, masaya kami at nagkakilala kami at naging iisa. Mahal na mahal ko si Luch higit pa sa aking pagkatao.

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